What do people say
People are in contact with each other, communicate, and communicate without language.
Lenin said that language is an extremely important means of human communication.
In most cases, language can regulate human behavior and stimulate beautiful emotions.
The application of language is more of speaking.
As the saying goes: “A beautiful saying is three winters warm, and bad words hurt June cold”.
It can be seen that people’s words can play an amazing role.
How do you speak so that someone will be heard?
First, it is civil, etiquette to speak out.
In ancient China, there was a story of “how to ask for courtesy”. It said that a person from Kaifeng to Suzhou to do business lost his way on the way to Suzhou and hesitated at the Sancha intersection.
Suddenly, when he saw an old cow herd beside a nearby pond, he hurried over to ask for directions: “Hey, old man!
Which way is right from here to Suzhou?
How much is left?
The old man looked up and saw that a man in his thirties was asking for directions, because he was not polite and disgusted, and said, “Take the middle road, there are about six or seven thousand feet away in SuzhouDistance.
The man asked strangely, “Oh!
Old man, how can you talk about this place without walking?
The old man said, “This place has always been preaching (li). Since there are people who are not preaching (li) here, it is no longer preaching (li)!”
“This story is a mockery of people who are not polite, and it also shows that the Chinese nation has the traditional virtue of being polite.
This story millennium blushes those who speak rudely in today’s society.
As another example, there is a class going to a store to participate in social practice activities.
First sent a classmate to contact, but was rejected by the store; another classmate was sent to contact, and they were welcome.
How is this going?
It turned out that the classmate who went first talked impolitely and was open-minded in the city. You should receive us.
The classmate who went there waited outside the manager’s office for the manager to finish the work, and then knocked gently on the door. After getting permission, he entered the room, took out the introduction letter, and begged, “Uncle, we have something to trouble you and the storeUncles and aunts . please give us your support . thank you.
Something said the manager’s heart was warm, of course he readily agreed.
Civilized words, reasonable and ceremonial words are heard because it makes the listener respected, feels the value of their existence, and thus creates trust in the other party.
Do the students have such an experience: most of the feelings a person has for himself are extended from the feelings others have for himself.
If you hear what others are saying to you is impolite, harsh, or even disgusting, you will not feel well in your heart and lose confidence in yourself.
Second, speaking should be divided into time, place, occasion, and pay attention to methods and methods.
Consider the emotions of the listener.
For example, a classmate accidentally dropped a newly bought pen on the floor and broke the pen tip.
He was anxious, but you said, “The old one won’t go, the new one won’t come.
“Can he be happy when he hears it?”
If you say, “Don’t worry, let me see . it can be repaired. You use mine first, and I will repair it with you after school.”
“He will be happy.
For another example, a classmate bought an electronic watch, and he liked it so much, but you said, “Ah, it doesn’t look good, and this watch doesn’t work well.
“You said he was comfortable in the heart?
You know, when a person decides to buy an item, in addition to its use value, there is also a problem of psychological satisfaction.The things he likes are more expensive and happy.
But when he buys back something that others say is not good or not, it often makes him feel psychologically lost and the value becomes worthless.
Therefore, when we are not quite sure, we should not be fussy about other people’s favorite items.
The time, place, and occasion of speaking are also important.
If your fellow student is hospitalized and he is very ill, when you go to see him, don’t say how serious and dangerous your disease is. Instead, persuade him to rest and recuperate, cooperate with the doctor to actively treat him, and make him full of confidence.Let me say something.
This is not the same as seeking truth from facts, because unlucky words can only increase the patient’s mental pressure.
For another example, if you go to the store to buy something, the salesperson is counting the money paid by another customer. At this moment, you want to shout: “Please give me a pound of vinegar!
“The salesperson will ignore you, which is just as unpleasant as interrupting others.
One of my classmates moved to a new middle school because of moving.
On the first day of class, he felt that the blackboard newspaper in the class was out of date. He thought that he would be responsible for the blackboard newspaper in the original school. He should do a good thing for the new class, and found the monitor, saying, “You seeIt’s time to change the newsletter. You can leave the newsletter classmates out of school. Let me change the new content with them.
“I didn’t expect the monitor to glance at him and ignore him.
Why is that?
Because the first day he went to school, he judged the work in the class, and he fiddled. Who would buy his account?
Some words are right in isolation, but at certain times, occasions do not work, and some people cannot accept them. Therefore, it is necessary to pay attention to speaking at a certain time, and only by accident can you get the best results.
Do n’t say things that people do n’t want to say; do n’t want to tell you what they do n’t tell you; do n’t expose them.
For example, you introduce someone to a classmate and say, “He used to steal other people’s things, but now he has improved and joined the group.
“The introduced student won’t feel good about it.
Someone’s family member died unfortunately, you should comfort him, don’t open your mouth and say “dead”.
In addition, jokes also need to master the scale.
Speak with style and methods.
For example, this classmate should be on duty on this day to clean up, but he can carry his schoolbag and go home after school.
If you say: “Aren’t you in this class?
What day did you forget today?
It’s your job to slip away and be lazy!
“Can he accept it?
But if you say: “Today is your duty, you must have forgotten?
“He must not be unhappy.
Therefore, even critics need someone to listen to it.
Don’t buckle your hat, don’t speak absolutely, don’t be embarrassing, leave room for words, hurry up and hurt your feelings.
To say this is not to ask the students to flatter and flattery, to engage in hypocrisy, to play tricks, or to avoid principle.
Concession on the principle is not to not let others down.
Speech is the voice, and language is one of the most convincing signs of internal civilization.
Therefore, fundamentally speaking, it is the old saying that civilized people speak civilized words.
I hope that my classmates will be civilized, master the art of speaking, and make people listen.